Bouncing Back From Any Relapse
We all have done it. We tell ourselves that we are going to stop doing something, yet habit kicks in and we cannot seem to fight the urge to go back to where we once were. How can you? This whole world thrives off of pleasure. Relationships, business marketing, and even basic instinct thrives off of pleasure. In a world full of pleasure we can thrive off of anything. Attention, food, sex/pornography, violence, video games, pain, drugs, and so much more gives us the pleasure we need to come back for more. Well, what happens when we get too obsessed with a pleasure? It becomes an addiction. For those who get addicted, only some are able to bounce back from relapses. The matter is not preventing a relapse, but rather how to handle one...because let's face it, none of us are perfect. We all have moments of weakness. In a world so full of hatred, we scavenge for any bit of pleasure and happiness. In this article, I explain simple ways to handle a relapse in order to increase your success rate of bouncing back, as well as lowering the chance of another relapse
Do Not Blame Yourself
The first one covers the most common issue with relapses. We as humans tend to be most hateful to ourselves in times of struggle. We lower our own self-esteem and we blame ourselves for our mistakes. Reality is, you had a relapse. So what? Blaming yourself and putting yourself down does absolutely nothing. You are looking at the situation in a negative way. What amazes me is that people blame themselves (I have done it before as well). What they should consider (and what has helped me take control of my life) is that....guess what you are stating when you are blaming yourself? You are stating that you are the one who has control of your actions. You state that it is your actions that produces these results. Do you know what that means? That means YOU ARE THE ONE capable of changing the results by changing your plan of attack and actions. Giving yourself hope that YOU CAN CHANGE is one of the most important steps in handling a relapse.
Analyze The Triggers
A relapse is the perfect time to plan your "plan of attack". Why? Because when you relapse, your environment during that time is fresh on your mind. Knowing what "set you off" can help you avoid the triggers, which influenced your relapse to begin with. Analyze the triggers for your relapse(s). Maybe it was being in a specific location, being around certain people, being told something, or even just a specific time of the day. Realizing what sets you off, will give you the power to avoid the triggers in the first place.
Set Small Benchmarks And Taper Off
One of the worst things I have done and what most people do is give themselves the good ole fashion "I am quitting for life". Sounds like a good plan....until you realize "for life" just may be a very long time. Instead of quitting cold turkey. Give yourself small benchmarks or taper off. In doing so, you not only reduce the amount of times you are exposed, but you also keep your moral high. In the best thing for fighting any addiction is keeping your moral and motivation high, because face it, any addiction is not a piece of cake to overcome.
With each benchmark passing by, you can extend the next benchmark out further than the last. What that does is slowly reducing the stimulus/exposure without putting your body in shock. This also increases your motivation. "Come on, I lasted 30 days last time so 31 should be a breeze" is a great example of self talk during a time of fighting any addiction or habit with extending the benchmark dates. Moral stays high and your exposure/stimulation gets reduce more and more over time.
Probably the best thing you can do during times like these is to tell someone. Tell anyone that will listen. In doing so, you can form a support system. Maybe the person you tell has some advice. Maybe they have gone through it before. Heck, maybe the person tells you something you don't want to hear, which motivates you to push even harder to fight the next urge to relapse. By telling someone, you hold yourself more accountable.
A HUGE reason for addictions and habits is lack of balance. Most things (and I say most) are best in moderation (some things you should just not do). Whatever you are addicted to, educate yourself on the consequences, follow the advice above, and find a balance in your life. Most things people are addicted to can easily play an everyday role in your life. It is when you let it consume your life, that it becomes an addiction/obsession. Designate some time for whatever it is, but know when to move on to whatever else you have going on in your day. Don't have anything else? GO MAKE SOMETHING ELSE. Go make your life busy. Go make your life amazing. Reasons we are addicted is because we let it consume our life.
In a world full of pleasure it is hard not to become addicted. For those unfortunate enough to become addicted or obsessed with something, know that there is hope and there is a way to fight back.