In a world full of negativity, sometimes it can be hard to find the positivity in life. We feel like we do everything right, yet we can't seem to find that positivity we search for. We watch all the motivational videos, gain a lot of "friends", get a lot of social media followers, and even become more socially involved as a whole, yet we don't find that positivity we are searching for. After putting in all the effort to be happy, you can find yourself feeling as if maybe your life is just meant to be negative and unhappy. Escaping the negativity in life seems impossible and our hope in happiness begins to fade. Though there are some situations that require further intervention and dealing with, a lot of negativity in one's life can be rid of, allowing the positivity to flow in freely. By setting yourself up for a positive experience in life, you set yourself up for happiness and free yourself of negativity. In this article I will be explaining how to attract positivity into your life.
Getting Rid Of Toxicity
First, you cannot bring in the good without getting rid of the bad. You mind can only take so much social interactions and emotional attachments. With that said, you must decide whether those in your life are draining you of your positivity or building you up. Signs of a toxic person can be anywhere as big as calling you names on a daily basis, to as small as just giving you an ugly look when you come up with an idea (making you feel bad about your idea). Toxic people are everywhere and in most cases aren't even aware of their toxicity until confronted. By simply spending less time with these people (even letting them out of your life completely) you start to feel the immense relief of less toxicity. Sometimes these people are those in your family or people you truly care about. Even so, you still need to prioritize being selective of those around you. A way of handling this person as someone you care about is to limit your interactions to only times they are positive or participating in an activity that brings the positivity out of them. This could be a weekly game night, after school activity, or hobby you both enjoy thoroughly. This way you connection and care for each other remains, but you don't have to be exposed to the negativity. Once you get rid of (or just limit) the amount of toxicity and judgement to be yourself, you can begin the pursuit of exposing the REAL YOU.
The Real You
After getting rid of the toxic people in your life, you may find yourself still in the habit of being guarded and molded by their daily reactions towards who you are. For example, you could be hesitant in giving your opinion with new friends due to your previous experience of being judged every time you spoke. It can be hard to allow yourself the freedom to be yourself. This is where your pursuit of finding the real you is very important. By partaking in new hobbies, finding new friends, and just experiencing new experiences, you expose yourself to new concepts. By this exposure, you find what you like, dislike, are neutral with, or even what sets your soul free. These things could be hard to partake in with someone (or multiple people) that judge you or don't want to participate with you. That is why, with your new found freedom of toxicity, you are able to expose yourself to what can actually bring you joy. Even without the negativity and trying to bring out who you really are, sometimes you perception of life is so swayed that you can't find positivity in the positive environment. You feel alone when you're with friends, you are stress free yet feel the weight of the world bearing down, or you judge yourself out of exposure to years of judgement. This is where the mindset needed to attract positivity in your life is most important to enjoy the energy around you.
There are always those that can see the dark in a well-lighted room. You are weird or set up for a negative life. Maybe you were just exposed to unhappiness so long that you still bring yourself to that dark place even in the best of situations. I've been there and so has thousands, if not million of others. Seeing the good in life when exposed to the bad for so long can make it hard to accept this shift in life. That is where your mindset is most important. Allowing yourself to take in the positive energy around you starts with the mindset of letting energy in. You can't let someone bring joy into your life if you are guarded and worry about them eventually leaving your life. A great example is not allowing yourself to love someone who makes you happy, just because you have been hurt before BY SOMEONE ENTIRELY DIFFERENT. Sometimes our mind is stuck in the past. Our mindset of fear after finally getting rid of the negativity keeps us from the positive mindset needed to fully appreciate and enjoy the positivity we have established around us.
Attracting Positivity (Conclusion)
We've gotten rid of the toxic people around us, pursued who we really are, and changed our mindset, yet where's the attraction of positivity? If you've already taken the actions stated above, you'll find the indirect attraction of positivity. You don't forcefully attract positivity, you allow it to happen. By ridding yourself of toxic people, you allow yourself the ability to attract new friends by being more available. By pursuing the real you and exposing yourself to new activities, you allow yourself to attract others that are like you and participate in what you also enjoy. By changing your perspective of life and the mindset needed to be positive, you attract those with the same mindset. By setting yourself apart from the negativity, allowing yourself to be around those that enjoy what you enjoy, and being more positive towards your life, you learn to find your own happiness and find the positivity needed for that happiness along the way.