When a service is in demand, more "experts" flock to the opportunity. Though this can provide competition, it can also saturate the industry. Much like the fitness industry, the life coaching industry has became saturated to the extend of immense confusion. Claims of accomplishments mean nothing and everyone is selling a "secret" that you somehow cannot get from any other coach. With a such a high risk being gambled due to their struggle (their life), countless people search the web daily for a life coach that is able to completely change their life for the better. This can lead to countless people being both broke and disappointed. Luckily, through my years of experience struggling with social anxiety, depression, and changing my life around, I am able to write and share this article with those that are contemplating getting help from a life "expert".
Looking For A Life Coach
It's no secret I had suffered from conditions such as depression and anxiety in the past. Articles such as "How To Overcome Social Anxiety" and "Taking Advantage of Your Depression" have explained both my struggle and how I have overcame it. What I did not mention was my experience with my daily search of a life coach before finally realizing what I should have known all along. Before my life changing realization that caused myself to start taking action and control, I searched the web daily for life coaches. Many giving such little free information to make you "get a taste" of their expertise, just to finish with a sales pitch (no pricing in the pitch). The amount of sites I clicked to due to buying into their pitch was more than I would like to admit. I was in search of help I felt I had needed much like anyone else in my state of mind. As a high-school student without a license (diagnosed with epilepsy) and no job, I had no sort of income to pay for what any of these "experts" were charging. For just a few phone calls a month to just an e-book, these life coaches were charging more than myself or others afford (and I am sure it has not gotten any cheaper). These coaches were not only selling services without much free information, but they were stating over and over the same "you cannot do this alone". To help those in need is one thing, but to tell someone who is already feeling alone that they cannot succeed alone, just to sell to them is another. With the realization that there was no was I could afford their services and that these coaches were doing more selling than helping, I set out to change the momentum of my life in a much cheaper way, which meant on my own.
Their Big "SECRET"
The big secret to any life coaching is the reality that YOU are in control of your life. No books, no motivation talks, nor any life coaches can MAKE YOU get up and take action. You have to decide to do so yourself. Sure motivation is nice, but relying purely on motivation is an ensured way to lose the inner fight you struggle with. No one selling a service wants to tell you that their service is not needed (or is not worth that price). Rather, their coaching focuses on telling you to do daily tasks. These tasks focus around doing things you are scared of, putting yourself in uncomfortable situations, and building momentum by starting small and building yourself up. What they don't tell you is....you can do this without coaching! Sure, guidance is beneficial, but there is plenty of free information online. For example, take a look at the self improvement section of this website. These articles (and others you can find online) are made from those who write about their experiences so you don't have to make the same mistakes.
Where Is The Best Information
So if life coaching is so bad, who do you turn to for help? The best thing I ever did in life was seek mentors, or even just role models. In my own pursuit of overcoming depression, there were a few people in my life that gave me the motivation to push through. Some I spoke to and impacted my life on a daily basis, and others that carried themselves in such a respected way that I wanted to be like them. It was not them selling me anything or even recognizing my depression. It was them caring and it was me seeking a purpose. Finding a mentor, a role model, even just a friend works wonders. Some could argue "but I cannot make friends" and to that I say, but how hard do you try? If you do, are you trying with the right people? There is always people in this world willing to help others. There is always people in this world who will be there for you. You just have to search and put yourself out there.
Life coaching has became such a saturated business, that people are ruining the whole reason behind the service. Through my experience with trying to find a life coach, I can ensure you that life coaching is not the only (sometimes not even the best) route to take. This is not to say life coaches are not beneficial, but rather stating that a majority of the promoted coaches are not going to give you what you desire. In the pursuit of happiness it is like reaching for an apple on a tree. You can pay someone to tell you how to climb the tree, find out how to climb the tree yourself, or climb the tree with an extra boost/hand from your friends or mentors. Life is right there within your reach just hanging from that tree. How do you plan on getting it?