What's the worst part of insecurity and anxiety? To me it's the sense of going through it alone. We feel like we are the only one going through a situation, no one can help us, no one is like us, and frankly we just feel out of place in the world. Insecurities can be downright crippling in your pursuit to socialize, find a partner, and in your career. But why do we have insecurities? Is there really anything to be insecure about, or are we just perceiving what makes us different as negative aspects of our own being? In this article I dig deeper into the reality of insecurity and the perspective we can all use to embrace what makes us insecure.
Everyone Has An Insecurity
The worst part of any mental barrier is feeling like you are the only one going through it. We not only put our self down, but we make it worse by putting EVERY SINGLE other person on a pedestal. We separate ourselves from others through a means of mental separation. Though everyone is living their own life the best they can, we tend to mentally have a "me versus everyone else" mentality. We perceive the world to be against us, while perceiving everyone else getting along in a world you feel out of place. Contrary to our perception, everyone has their own insecurities. Insecurities, seen as rare mental barriers, are incredibly common. In fact, you could say everyone is insecure about at least one thing in their life. Don't believe me? Watch that guy who's outgoing in class be too intimidated to hit the gym. Watch the girl with a different style of clothing be too shy to make friends. Watch a that person you've had your eyes on pull back from dating, because of an inconvenience in their life (having children, being broke, etc). Watch closely and you begin to see how real and common insecurities are. So far in my life I've witnessed and experienced more insecurities than I would have ever liked to, but in doing so I have come to better understand why we seek to dwell in our own insecurities.
Insecurity Is The Realization Of Difference
For a second take a look at your insecurities. What are they? More than likely they are things that set you apart from others. They are what make you different. You and everyone else in this world is different than each and any other person. Even me and my identical twin are less alike than most would assume. What kind of world would this be without these differences? Boring, that's what! Realizing your insecurity is a merely a difference gives you the clarity that you are only worried about what makes you unique. You are literally worried about what makes you unique in a world filled with BILLIONS of people.... Seems less troublesome now, huh? Instead of worrying about what makes you different, EMBRACE IT!
Overcoming Insecurities Opens Doors
What happens when we get rid of insecurities? We are able to ask out our crush, apply for that job, ask for that promotion, meet new people, and make new friends. We realize all the opportunities we missed just from the mental barrier we created. That difference that you were so insecure about, that may just be the thing that sets you apart from others trying to attain what you are as well (a girl/boy, job, promotion, etc). Reality is, you keep yourself from achieving what you want out of life. Not that competitor, not your boss, not your friends.....YOU! And guess what? You are in luck, because you can also allow those doors of opportunity to open purely through embracing what sets you apart.
The reality of your insecurity is, well, it's normal. Insecurity is just worry caused by the realization that you are different. You are different, and it wouldn't be better any other way. Some day that difference may give you the edge needed to achieve what you want out of life. You will never know unless you realize that your difference is what sets you apart.